I made it through the first part of the book, The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. The first agreement is “Be Impeccable With Your Word.” He says that our words have power; are like magic. Words can harm or help. Words can incite hate or promote love. It is here where the impeccable part comes in.
Impeccable means to not sin against one’s self. When we attack or speak unlovingly to others we create in them negative feelings towards us, thereby causing harm or “sinning” against ourselves.
Being impeccable means being genuine and loving with ourselves by being genuine and loving with others. It’s knowing when to say something and when to be silent. It is avoiding gossip at all costs. It’s not only learning what to say, but HOW to say it. I am finding out, as I try to apply this agreement to my daily life, that it is a very difficult thing to do.
I find myself NOT being impeccable with my word about things all day, even silly things like complaining about an app on my phone – saying things like, “These app developers don’t know what they are doing. If they had any sense they’d know what people want!”
That is not being impeccable with my word. Instead I could have said, “I wish the app had this feature on it.” See the difference? In the former I felt irritated and angry and self-righteous. In the latter, my emotive state would have been much calmer and serene, thus impeccable.
This is going to take a lot of practice and mindfulness to change, because I think I am more of a complainer than I realize. I gossip and I judge and I complain. I’ve worked really hard over the last couple of months to stop judging myself; to be impeccable with my word directly towards myself, and I’ve made a lot of progress with it.
Now, it is time to look outside of myself and make some changes. Now, it is time to try to be completely impeccable with my word in not just my relationship with myself, but in how I relate to everyone and everything.
Wish me luck.